Genesis 21:8-21 Matthew 10:24-39 Romans 6:1-11
Have you ever been in a position where you were compelled to make a choice, but none of the choices were good ones? One of the most famous of these is that of Socrates who, in 399 BCE was convicted of impiety and corrupting the youth of Athens with his philosophy and was given the choice of exile or death by poison. Neither was a good choice, but Socrates felt that exile was a fate worse than death and thus chose poison. In the modern era, being confronted by bad choices remains common. In combat, soldiers and sailors are often faced with choices that have terrible results regardless of what they choose. Likewise, the homeless, those in poverty, and many others are faced with choosing between multiple bad choices with no good options. What do you choose when faced with a fine for $300 or three days in jail, when you don’t have $300 and will lose your job if you miss three days of work?
I don’t have the answer because, obviously, there are no good answers. But this is what Abraham faces as we read from Genesis 21:8-21. Isaac, the son of Abraham and Sarah, had grown enough to be weaned from his mother, possible at the age of three, or perhaps a bit older, but when that happens, Sarah forces Abraham to make a choice that he doesn’t want to make, and in which someone will be hurt no matter what he chooses.
8 The child grew and was weaned, and on the day Isaac was weaned Abraham held a great feast. 9 But Sarah saw that the son whom Hagar the Egyptian had borne to Abraham was mocking, 10 and she said to Abraham, “Get rid of that slave woman and her son, for that woman’s son will never share in the inheritance with my son Isaac.”
11 The matter distressed Abraham greatly because it concerned his son. 12 But God said to him, “Do not be so distressed about the boy and your slave woman. Listen to whatever Sarah tells you, because it is through Isaac that your offspring will be reckoned. 13 I will make the son of the slave into a nation also, because he is your offspring.”
14 Early the next morning Abraham took some food and a skin of water and gave them to Hagar. He set them on her shoulders and then sent her off with the boy. She went on her way and wandered in the Desert of Beersheba.
15 When the water in the skin was gone, she put the boy under one of the bushes. 16 Then she went off and sat down about a bowshot away, for she thought, “I cannot watch the boy die.” And as she sat there, she began to sob.
17 God heard the boy crying, and the angel of God called to Hagar from heaven and said to her, “What is the matter, Hagar? Do not be afraid; God has heard the boy crying as he lies there. 18 Lift the boy up and take him by the hand, for I will make him into a great nation.”
19 Then God opened her eyes and she saw a well of water. So, she went and filled the skin with water and gave the boy a drink.
20 God was with the boy as he grew up. He lived in the desert and became an archer. 21 While he was living in the Desert of Paran, his mother got a wife for him from Egypt.
There are several things that might be helpful as we try to understand this. First, as revered of an ancestor as he may be, Abraham was just as flawed and just as human as the rest of us. He made mistakes, and we cannot argue that this interaction, as painful as it is, was anything close to perfect. Second, culturally, despite Hagar being owned by Abraham, once she bore him a child, she legally became his wife. Therefore, although Isaac was the child of Sarah, and the child that God had promised to them since this entire adventure began, it can be argued that Ishmael was, legally, the firstborn male child and would therefor inherit the lion’s share of Abraham’s estate. Third, because Hagar was legally his wife, Abraham could not sell her, or give her away, or set her free, or simply throw her out as it appears that he did. Instead, legally, what we are witnessing is a legal divorce proceeding. Although the details are not included in the writing of Genesis, in order for Abraham to send Hagar away, there had to be some formal stuff that legally satisfied the requirements of divorce.
With all that in mind, Sarah forces Abraham to make a choice that has been coming ever since he chose to make a baby with Hagar. The choice to do nothing results in Ishmael being declared as the firstborn son, and displacing Isaac as the child of God’s promise. The second choice is to divorce Hagar, send her away, but raise Ishmael for himself, again resulting in Ishmael being understood as the firstborn son, The third option was to divorce Hagar, and send both her, and Ishmael, away leaving Isaac as the only son. Abraham didn’t want to do any of those things. Not surprisingly, as his son, he had feelings for Ishmael, and likely for Hagar as well. But Abraham also had feelings for Sarah and for Isaac, didn’t want to hurt them, and also wanted to honor God’s gift by allowing Issac to receive the inheritance that had been promised to him. No matter what Abraham chooses, something gets broken and someone gets hurt. Could Abraham have done better by Hagar and Ishmael? Should he have done better? Yeah, probably. But as we all know, it’s easy to sit in judgement when you don’t have all the facts.
In any case, Abraham is forced into a life-or-death choice, with nothing to ease the pain and loss except for God’s promise to care for Ishmael. But, like it or not, all of us face life-or-death choices. Hopefully, the choices that we face have some good mixed with the bad and, like Abraham and many others, we will not be forced to choose between several bad options. But, in Matthew 10:24-39, Jesus describes one of those choices we will have to make, when he says:
24 “The student is not above the teacher, nor a servant above his master. 25 It is enough for students to be like their teachers, and servants like their masters. If the head of the house has been called Beelzebul, how much more the members of his household!
26 “So, do not be afraid of them, for there is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed, or hidden that will not be made known. 27 What I tell you in the dark, speak in the daylight; what is whispered in your ear, proclaim from the roofs. 28 Do not be afraid of those who kill the body but cannot kill the soul. Rather, be afraid of the One who can destroy both soul and body in hell. 29 Are not two sparrows sold for a penny? Yet not one of them will fall to the ground outside your Father’s care. 30 And even the very hairs of your head are all numbered. 31 So don’t be afraid; you are worth more than many sparrows.
32 “Whoever acknowledges me before others, I will also acknowledge before my Father in heaven. 33 But whoever disowns me before others, I will disown before my Father in heaven.
34 “Do not suppose that I have come to bring peace to the earth. I did not come to bring peace, but a sword. 35 For I have come to turn…
“‘a man against his father,
a daughter against her mother,
a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law—
36 a man’s enemies will be the members of his own household.’
37 “Anyone who loves their father or mother more than me is not worthy of me; anyone who loves their son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me. 38 Whoever does not take up their cross and follow me is not worthy of me. 39 Whoever finds their life will lose it, and whoever loses their life for my sake will find it.
Jesus says that it is enough for us to be like our teachers and like our master, Jesus. We should not be afraid of those who criticize or condemn Jesus, and to an even greater degree, us. In the end, Jesus says, the truth will be made known. Everything that has been hidden will be revealed, everything that has been deliberately concealed will be made public. Nothing will linger in the shadows, all conspiracies and secrets will be brought into the light, all lies will be exposed. And so, Jesus urges us to put away our fear of those who can only kill us, but who cannot take away our life with an eternal God. Rather, we should choose carefully whom we would rather have as our enemy. Should we ally ourselves with those who might attack our credibility, tell lies about us, conspire against us, or even kill us, but whose schemes will be revealed on the day of judgement? Or should we ally ourselves with the creator of the universe, the champion of truth, the bearer of all wisdom, and the keeper of our souls for all eternity? It is a life-or-death choice.
When Jesus says, “Whoever acknowledges me before others, I will also acknowledge before my Father in heaven. 33 But whoever disowns me before others, I will disown before my Father in heaven” He isn’t talking about silly internet memes that demand that you repost if you really love Jesus. He is saying that we must choose a side. We must put Jesus first, above our parents, above our families, and above our own well-being. But by choosing Jesus, and placing him first, we will find life.
Paul reinforces this teaching as he writes to the church in Rome in Romans 6:1b-11, saying:
6:1 What shall we say, then? Shall we go on sinning so that grace may increase? 2 By no means! We are those who have died to sin; how can we live in it any longer? 3 Or don’t you know that all of us who were baptized into Christ Jesus were baptized into his death? 4 We were therefore buried with him through baptism into death in order that, just as Christ was raised from the dead through the glory of the Father, we too may live a new life.
5 For if we have been united with him in a death like his, we will certainly also be united with him in a resurrection like his. 6 For we know that our old self was crucified with him so that the body ruled by sin might be done away with, that we should no longer be slaves to sin— 7 because anyone who has died has been set free from sin.
8 Now if we died with Christ, we believe that we will also live with him. 9 For we know that since Christ was raised from the dead, he cannot die again; death no longer has mastery over him. 10 The death he died, he died to sin once for all; but the life he lives, he lives to God.
11 In the same way, count yourselves dead to sin but alive to God in Christ Jesus.
Paul says, “Shall we go on sinning?” and point out that we have choices to make. We chose to follow Jesus. We chose to be baptized and make a public statement that we were following Jesus. And, Paul asks, if we have been baptized, and we have died to sin and raised to a new life in Christ, then shouldn’t we live as if we are following the example, and the teachings, of Jesus?
The story of Abraham tells us that although we have many choices to make, sometimes we will be faced with choices that have no good options. Sometimes our choices will hurt people. Sometimes our choices may be the pivot between life and death for ourselves or for others. But Jesus reminds us that our choices also decide with whom we will ally ourselves. Will we choose to be God’s ally, or God’s enemy? Will we choose to put Jesus first, even ahead of our family, our jobs, our wealth, and our well-being?
Will we choose to life as if following Jesus means something?
As Joshual once said, “choose for yourself this day whom you will serve.” (Joshua 24:15)
And having done that, we must live as if that choice means something.
But… choose wisely, because these really are… life and death choices.
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